Wednesday, October 12, 2011
Tuesday, October 4, 2011
Signs of Abuse in a Relationship
You may ask What is there to know? I already know the signs! I used to think I knew the signs until I myself went through the Domestic Violence. Even then I still would not have admitted to going through such horrific things. As a child and teenager I would always tell people I am NOT going to be with no man that beats me! There is much more to the abuse than just him or her hitting each other. I have listed here a few things that over the years I have learned, mainly from experience and some from other sources.
At first we will list the obvious ones that should throw up a red flag for anyone!
This post was not intended in anyway to diagnose someone. This is things I experienced with myself and felt maybe or would help others to understand some of the things that abused women/men go through and even in some cases how they deal with it. If you suspect something is going on with your friend try talking to them and just show support and concern. If they are ready they will talk but you can not force them to communicate and talk about it. Calling the law only made things worse for me because my ex-husband swore I was the one who called and I was beaten even worse.
Disclaimer: I wrote this post for myself and not to be intended for any kind of medical use. I have experienced this and this my opinion and that of NO others!
At first we will list the obvious ones that should throw up a red flag for anyone!
- 1. They suddenly walk around with sunglasses on because they have a blackened eye. If you have a really close friend that never wears glasses and suddenly has on a pair and especially refuses to remove them when coming indoors, your friend may be in a bad situation!
- Broken bones - Everyone at some time in their life may experience a broken bone, but if someone is suddenly receiving what would be considered more than usual broken bones, and their story is they fell down steps, or tripped and hit the floor. You may want to try and talk to this person. Don't be surprised if they don't want to talk, they are afraid for their life at this point.
- Depression - most people when they are being mistreated tend to blame themselves for what happened to them and tend to stay away from others. They used to be an outgoing person and now they don't want to leave their house or have company.
- Weight gain or weight loss - You know your friend and you know if they are trying to gain or lose weight. Major gain or loss is never a good idea for health reasons and with depressions, and stress we tend to deal with it in our own way. Maybe they are refusing to eat or overeating to comfort their own feelings!
- Sex - If your friend was the type of person that stayed solely with one partner and suddenly was seeking out attention in unhealthy manners he/she may be abused. This is also common in especially young girls that are or were molested as young girls. If a person goes from being with one partner to having many partners, this could be a sign that they are in a sexual abuse situation. They may not be the one looking for but will almost allow others to do what they will because they feel they have too.
- Cries alot - sometimes they will cry over spilled milk as the old saying goes. This maybe because they are yelled at all the time over nothing.
- Self esteem goes to nothing - In most cases of abuse they are told they are nothing, and never will be nothing. I was told I couldn't make it without him and that nobody would ever want to be with me.
- Cutting - sounds crazy but sometimes they do things like cut themselves to feel alive, I did. If he could inflict pain on me why couldn't I? It just made me realize I really was somebody!
- Withdrawals - Their entire lifestyle may change from going out with friends or talking on the phone to you can't find them. They refuse to answer calls and never wants to be part of anything anymore!
- Alcohol and or Drug abuse - Again a way of dealing and blocking out the pain!
This post was not intended in anyway to diagnose someone. This is things I experienced with myself and felt maybe or would help others to understand some of the things that abused women/men go through and even in some cases how they deal with it. If you suspect something is going on with your friend try talking to them and just show support and concern. If they are ready they will talk but you can not force them to communicate and talk about it. Calling the law only made things worse for me because my ex-husband swore I was the one who called and I was beaten even worse.
Disclaimer: I wrote this post for myself and not to be intended for any kind of medical use. I have experienced this and this my opinion and that of NO others!
The ABC's of ME!
I thought this wold be a fun and interesting way for to learn a little bit about me, by using the ABC's and a description of me!
A - Adventurous
B - Beautiful
C - Caring
D - Daring
E - Eventful
F - Friend
G - Gardener
H - Happy
I - Insightful
J - Juggler
K - Kind
L - Loving
M - Mother
N - Nice
O - Open
P - Patient
Q - Queen of my domain
R - Respectful
S - Sister
T - Talker
U - Understanding
V - Vigorous
W - Wild
X - Xanthus - (when I was born I had Jaundice so I had a yellowish skin)
Y - Young
Z - Zealous
This was a funny little Game you can play with others also to describe themselves or you! Now I would like for you to leave a comment below with some adjectives that describe who you are. You don't have to do A -Z like I did but maybe a few that really describe who you are!
A - Adventurous
B - Beautiful
C - Caring
D - Daring
E - Eventful
F - Friend
G - Gardener
H - Happy
I - Insightful
J - Juggler
K - Kind
L - Loving
M - Mother
N - Nice
O - Open
P - Patient
Q - Queen of my domain
R - Respectful
S - Sister
T - Talker
U - Understanding
V - Vigorous
W - Wild
X - Xanthus - (when I was born I had Jaundice so I had a yellowish skin)
Y - Young
Z - Zealous
This was a funny little Game you can play with others also to describe themselves or you! Now I would like for you to leave a comment below with some adjectives that describe who you are. You don't have to do A -Z like I did but maybe a few that really describe who you are!
Sunday, September 25, 2011
Halloween Costumes for ~ADULTS~
18+ post for Adults ONLY thank you
When I was little I used to love to go and find the perfect costume for Halloween. Well, now as an Adult I still like to find the perfect costume rather it be for Halloween or just playing dress up for my hubby! You may ask yourself where can I get such an outfit? At EdenFantasys, they have everything from sexy Lingerie to what could be Halloween Costumes.
They mainly have costumes for women but they do have a Fire Fighter costume for men and a Fire Fighter for Women. You can find both Male and Female Fire Fighter costumes in my store ~Southern Pleasure~, along with many other items. But maybe you don't want to be a Fire Fighter, you want to be a Police Woman, or School Girl. They can all be found at EdenFantasys.
You can choose your own from really sexy and not a lot there, to something that you may actually be able to pull off at a party. I guess you could say that some are just left to stay at home and others can be worn in public (If you dare). Here are a list of the different types of costumes you can purchase through EdenFantasys.
Vampire
Nurse
French Maid
Arabian Dancer
Cougar Cat suit
Saloon Girl
And lets not leave out some of the necessary accessory's to really pull these outfits off!
Handcuffs for the Police Officer
You can find these outfits and MANY more at EdenFantasys, and the prices range from $20.00 to around $60.00. And of course you can get free shipping on a lot of orders and sometimes a free gift depending on how much you spend! You can follow EdenFantasys on facebook and twitter for special deals and promotions.
Disclosure: This post is my opinion and my opinion only, I was compinsated with a gift card fromEdenFantasys. Still I reinterate that this is my opinion of this site!
When I was little I used to love to go and find the perfect costume for Halloween. Well, now as an Adult I still like to find the perfect costume rather it be for Halloween or just playing dress up for my hubby! You may ask yourself where can I get such an outfit? At EdenFantasys, they have everything from sexy Lingerie to what could be Halloween Costumes.
They mainly have costumes for women but they do have a Fire Fighter costume for men and a Fire Fighter for Women. You can find both Male and Female Fire Fighter costumes in my store ~Southern Pleasure~, along with many other items. But maybe you don't want to be a Fire Fighter, you want to be a Police Woman, or School Girl. They can all be found at EdenFantasys.
Vampire
Nurse
French Maid
Arabian Dancer
Cougar Cat suit
Saloon Girl
And lets not leave out some of the necessary accessory's to really pull these outfits off!
Handcuffs for the Police Officer
You can find these outfits and MANY more at EdenFantasys, and the prices range from $20.00 to around $60.00. And of course you can get free shipping on a lot of orders and sometimes a free gift depending on how much you spend! You can follow EdenFantasys on facebook and twitter for special deals and promotions.
Disclosure: This post is my opinion and my opinion only, I was compinsated with a gift card fromEdenFantasys. Still I reinterate that this is my opinion of this site!
Thursday, September 22, 2011
Family Fun Outdoors
Do you remember when you were little and begging your mother to go outside and play. Even if you didn't have the biggest, fanciest toys in the nighborhood you always managed to have a great time and wanted to go out early in the morning and stay til late at night! I have in the last 10 to 15 years meet children that do not enjoy going outside, WHY? Have times changes that much since I was a little girl? I don't really think so but maybe it is technology!
As a child I did not have the fancy swings, trampolines, and cool outside toys that the other children had. We had better, and they weren't store bought items either. My Daddy was a lil Engineer in his own mind. We had a roller coaster, yes a roller coaster when I was little. It was made out of the big transformer cable going the top of one tree down to another tree, with an old 3 seater truck seat attached at the bottom of the tree. The ride itself was composed of the front handlebar and wheel of an old bike and you would climb the tree, hold tight and ride. We also had a car from one of the fair rides (The Tilt-A-Whirl) that my dad took and made a Merry-go-round out of. Those were the ones the neighborhood kids enjoyed but I myself enjoyed the swings and the See Saw that my dad made. Me and my little sister would sit out there all day long and sing. Don't know if we ever sung a song right or if we even knew the words to one complete song but we would take several songs and make up words as we went. However my sisters weren't the Dirt Monkeys, they liked to play with clean toys I also enjoyed my sandbox my dad made us. I can remember sitting outside for hours at a time playing in the sand and when I was done I would have an entire circus out of sand. Unfortuanatly my parents weren't as big on taking pictures like we are today and as you all know there was no such thing as a digital camera. We had polaroids and Film and both were kind of expensive to develope, so there were no pics to share with my children now.
My children now or did have trampolin but they destroyed it, along with the swings and anything else they got their hands on. As a Family we enjoy going outside playing different games such as basketball, volleyball, riding dirtbikes, camping, hiking, walking, and Cornhole toss. My daughters enjoy the jump roping and games of tag. My children own a nintendo but I do not allow them to sit in the house and watch TV, play video games and play on the computer. I think that is one of the problems with our youth today. I have neice that sleeps, eats, and watches TV. Thats it, she is over weight and very under active. The family uses her Asthma as an excuse for it and I tell them that a little activity every now and then will not hurt her. So I try and keep mine active.
I guess I don't have to tell you that Clorox 2 is like my best friend of laundary just simply because I use it in like every load of clothes. My husband works on cars, Electrical contractor and HVAC technician so he gets really dirty and greasy himself. I just took the Clorox 2 play 2day pledge. I pledged to spend at least 10 hours a week min. with each of my children. If you would also like to take the pledge for your family go here. You can also find Clorox on facebook and follow them on twitter. You can find some really great ideas and tips on keeping your colors very beautiful and your whites still white!
About Clorox2® Stain Fighter & Color Booster:
Getting dirty is much more fun when it's easy to get clean. When the outdoor fun is finished, Clorox2® Stain Fighter & Color Booster gets out the tough stains, so your kids can take part in healthy fun and get dirty over and over again.
About Clorox:
The Clorox Company is a leading manufacturer and marketer of consumer products with 8,100 employees and fiscal year 2011 revenues of $5.2 billion. Clorox markets some of consumers' most trusted and recognized brand names, including its namesake bleach and cleaning products, Green Works® naturally derived home care products, Pine-Sol® cleaners, Poett® home care products, Fresh Step® cat litter, Kingsford® charcoal, Hidden Valley® and K C Masterpiece® dressings and sauces, Brita® water-filtration products, Glad® bags, wraps and containers, and Burt’s Bees® natural personal care products. Nearly 90 percent of Clorox Company brands hold the No. 1 or No. 2 market share positions in their categories. The company’s products are manufactured in more than two dozen countries and sold in more than 100 countries. Clorox is committed to making a positive difference in the communities where its employees work and live. Founded in 1980, The Clorox Company Foundation has awarded cash grants totaling more than $84 million to nonprofit organizations, schools and colleges. In fiscal year 2011 alone, the foundation awarded $4 million in cash grants, and Clorox made product donations valued at $13 million. For more information about Clorox, visit www.TheCloroxCompany.com.
“I wrote this blog post while participating in the SocialMoms and Clorox2® blogging program, for a gift card worth $40. For more information on how you can participate, click here.”
As a child I did not have the fancy swings, trampolines, and cool outside toys that the other children had. We had better, and they weren't store bought items either. My Daddy was a lil Engineer in his own mind. We had a roller coaster, yes a roller coaster when I was little. It was made out of the big transformer cable going the top of one tree down to another tree, with an old 3 seater truck seat attached at the bottom of the tree. The ride itself was composed of the front handlebar and wheel of an old bike and you would climb the tree, hold tight and ride. We also had a car from one of the fair rides (The Tilt-A-Whirl) that my dad took and made a Merry-go-round out of. Those were the ones the neighborhood kids enjoyed but I myself enjoyed the swings and the See Saw that my dad made. Me and my little sister would sit out there all day long and sing. Don't know if we ever sung a song right or if we even knew the words to one complete song but we would take several songs and make up words as we went. However my sisters weren't the Dirt Monkeys, they liked to play with clean toys I also enjoyed my sandbox my dad made us. I can remember sitting outside for hours at a time playing in the sand and when I was done I would have an entire circus out of sand. Unfortuanatly my parents weren't as big on taking pictures like we are today and as you all know there was no such thing as a digital camera. We had polaroids and Film and both were kind of expensive to develope, so there were no pics to share with my children now.
My children now or did have trampolin but they destroyed it, along with the swings and anything else they got their hands on. As a Family we enjoy going outside playing different games such as basketball, volleyball, riding dirtbikes, camping, hiking, walking, and Cornhole toss. My daughters enjoy the jump roping and games of tag. My children own a nintendo but I do not allow them to sit in the house and watch TV, play video games and play on the computer. I think that is one of the problems with our youth today. I have neice that sleeps, eats, and watches TV. Thats it, she is over weight and very under active. The family uses her Asthma as an excuse for it and I tell them that a little activity every now and then will not hurt her. So I try and keep mine active.
I guess I don't have to tell you that Clorox 2 is like my best friend of laundary just simply because I use it in like every load of clothes. My husband works on cars, Electrical contractor and HVAC technician so he gets really dirty and greasy himself. I just took the Clorox 2 play 2day pledge. I pledged to spend at least 10 hours a week min. with each of my children. If you would also like to take the pledge for your family go here. You can also find Clorox on facebook and follow them on twitter. You can find some really great ideas and tips on keeping your colors very beautiful and your whites still white!
About Clorox2® Stain Fighter & Color Booster:
Getting dirty is much more fun when it's easy to get clean. When the outdoor fun is finished, Clorox2® Stain Fighter & Color Booster gets out the tough stains, so your kids can take part in healthy fun and get dirty over and over again.
About Clorox:
The Clorox Company is a leading manufacturer and marketer of consumer products with 8,100 employees and fiscal year 2011 revenues of $5.2 billion. Clorox markets some of consumers' most trusted and recognized brand names, including its namesake bleach and cleaning products, Green Works® naturally derived home care products, Pine-Sol® cleaners, Poett® home care products, Fresh Step® cat litter, Kingsford® charcoal, Hidden Valley® and K C Masterpiece® dressings and sauces, Brita® water-filtration products, Glad® bags, wraps and containers, and Burt’s Bees® natural personal care products. Nearly 90 percent of Clorox Company brands hold the No. 1 or No. 2 market share positions in their categories. The company’s products are manufactured in more than two dozen countries and sold in more than 100 countries. Clorox is committed to making a positive difference in the communities where its employees work and live. Founded in 1980, The Clorox Company Foundation has awarded cash grants totaling more than $84 million to nonprofit organizations, schools and colleges. In fiscal year 2011 alone, the foundation awarded $4 million in cash grants, and Clorox made product donations valued at $13 million. For more information about Clorox, visit www.TheCloroxCompany.com.
“I wrote this blog post while participating in the SocialMoms and Clorox2® blogging program, for a gift card worth $40. For more information on how you can participate, click here.”
Saturday, September 10, 2011
10th Anniversary of USA Tragedy
10 Years ago on September 11, 2001 We as Americans witnessed one of the biggest tragedies ever known to us. I can't say that I was alive or old enough to remember any other tragedy to the US in my 35 years but I will never foreget about this day!
You hear it all the time Where were you? And what were you doing? Can you answer these questions? I can with complete confideince that I know where I was and exactly what I was doing at the exact moment the first plane crashed into the Twin Towers in NYC. Alan Jackson had a song "Where were you the day the world stopped turning". It is an Awesome song and if you haven't heard you really need to check it out.
I was working at AAA Mini storage, and we had a small 13" TV in the waiting room. I was waiting to take my son which was 3 years old at the time, to his pre-school program when the news came across the TV. It was on every local channel and a horrific sight to everyone. I remember my son asking what happened to the TV momma, and I really had no real response to give him. I wasn't sure myself I think, it just didn't seem like it was real. It was almost like I was just watching a really bad movie on TV.
I welcome any comments or stories you have to share from this day! Sorry for such a short post but this is one is difficult to write without getting all teary eyed!
You hear it all the time Where were you? And what were you doing? Can you answer these questions? I can with complete confideince that I know where I was and exactly what I was doing at the exact moment the first plane crashed into the Twin Towers in NYC. Alan Jackson had a song "Where were you the day the world stopped turning". It is an Awesome song and if you haven't heard you really need to check it out.
I was working at AAA Mini storage, and we had a small 13" TV in the waiting room. I was waiting to take my son which was 3 years old at the time, to his pre-school program when the news came across the TV. It was on every local channel and a horrific sight to everyone. I remember my son asking what happened to the TV momma, and I really had no real response to give him. I wasn't sure myself I think, it just didn't seem like it was real. It was almost like I was just watching a really bad movie on TV.
I welcome any comments or stories you have to share from this day! Sorry for such a short post but this is one is difficult to write without getting all teary eyed!
Tuesday, September 6, 2011
Date night with the Hubby!
Warning 18+ only post... Sexual content
Do you remember as teens when a guy would ask you out how we as girls would spend hours getting ready, doing our hair, makeup and looking for the perfect outfit? Well then we grow up and get married and date night ends! It doesn't have to, with EdenFantasys you can have a date night right in your own bedroom without the worry of what others will think or say!
You can find EdenFantasys. They have everything you can imagine for playtime with the hubby from toys to dress up! The products when you order them are delivered to your mail box and are in discreet wrappings to NOT let everyone know what you have in mind for later.
I personally have the Siri and love it. It is small, but yet larger than life when used, it isn't real loud,very quiet, easy to use, rechargeable and has many different speeds and functions all in one!
Check out Lelo Siri and let me know what you think. I also like the f have to act that
Do you remember as teens when a guy would ask you out how we as girls would spend hours getting ready, doing our hair, makeup and looking for the perfect outfit? Well then we grow up and get married and date night ends! It doesn't have to, with EdenFantasys you can have a date night right in your own bedroom without the worry of what others will think or say!
You can find EdenFantasys. They have everything you can imagine for playtime with the hubby from toys to dress up! The products when you order them are delivered to your mail box and are in discreet wrappings to NOT let everyone know what you have in mind for later.
I personally have the Siri and love it. It is small, but yet larger than life when used, it isn't real loud,very quiet, easy to use, rechargeable and has many different speeds and functions all in one!
Check out Lelo Siri and let me know what you think. I also like the f have to act that it can be used on many different parts of the body. It can used by itself, with other toys or even with multiple play! Both you and your partner can find enjoyment in this jewel, and many hours of pleasure before it ever has to be recharged. It clean up easily and has its own little carry bag so everyone doesn't know what you have in your nightstand drawer.
You do have to sign up for an account with EdenFantasys to order their products but your information is not shared with anyone. You only receive the emails that you want to receive and can cancel your account at anytime without hassle. I just can't imagine canceling mine! So stop by their website, and see what you think. Never know you may have a date night before you know it.
Listed here are a few links to more specific areas of the EdenFanatasys website that you may enjoy. While you are there look around for something I have maybe missed but I have to admit these are things I really enjoy about them!
Also if you have any questions in regards to their products you can email them, or ask in a discussion group depending on the privacy levels you are looking for and receive a response within 1 - 2 business days. Unless it is a weekend or Holiday I usually get my response within 24 hours. Great Customer Service and they assist you with anything you need! Go check them out now if you haven't already! EdenFantasys
Disclosure: I was given a gift card to write this post. The opinions here are mine and solely mine.
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